A Year of Fatherhood

It has been a year since the birth of my son and he has changed my life completely. From being a carrycot and swinger at night to being a parallel crawler, I have lived some nervous, exciting and beautiful moments of my life.

When he was put under the light on the 7th day to cure jaundice, I was the nervous father and couldn’t see my son in that utterly uncomfortable scenario.

It excited me when he started learning things ahead of time. To see him climbing the stairs in the 10th month or when he held the bat and started pushing the ball after watching us play.

When he smiled for the first time, it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. Though he did it while sleeping, it was a moment I will never forget.

Nowadays as he notices that I am back home he smiles and hugs me. I mean I can’t ask for anything more than this as a father.

This is just one side of being a father, it is not an easy job. It is the most difficult and sensitive job in the world. Fatherhood brings some challenges as well as some positive changes in life. And I will put some light on both the sides.

Challenges

Physically and financially ready

Before being a father, you have to be physically and financially ready for it. Don’t think that if you are financially ready, it is enough. Physical readiness is a big challenge if you want to be an active father.

Priorities

If you think nothing will change after being a father then think again, your life will change upside down. If your ambitions, your goals or if some people are more important than your child then don’t become a father.

Responsibility

Being a father is an added responsibility. From the timely vaccination to the right kind of upbringing, you will be responsible for everything related to your child and it becomes challenging to accept that responsibility.

Slow down

Your child will require more than 100% of your attention. So everything else will take a backseat and your life will slow down a bit. It is difficult to slow down specially when you have found the direction.

Cautious acts around the child

Along with everything else mentioned above, you will have to change some habits because your child will copy you and if you have any habits which he/she doesn’t need to learn then you have to change them or have to act very cautiously around your child. And it is a very challenging thing to do.

Positive changes

Stress-free

The biggest positive change that will come to your life after becoming a father is that your life will become stress-free. Your child will make you smile even in the most tensed scenario. As you spent time with your child, your daily stress will vanish into the thin air.

Different perspective

After becoming a father, there will be an added perspective in every situation. Before taking any decision, you will evaluate it as a father. And that will push you towards the more mature decision.

Calm down

Trust me, your child will make you calmer. Every time before reacting, you are going to think that he/she will copy me. Thus ultimately, you will react only if it is necessary.

Cute atmosphere

A child in the house will make the atmosphere light and fun. It will bring everyone in the family on their feet and will fill your life with happiness. The cute acts will make your life beautiful and you will start living each and every moment of life.

Purpose to life

Your child will give that purpose to your life which will be above everything else. And that purpose will push you in a whole new world which will revolve around your child.

This is what I have experienced in the first year of fatherhood. Now, I am sure, in the coming years I am going to unbox a lot of experiences which will evolve me as a person.

So to years ahead…